Table 1 DPS attributes with detail²⁹.

1

Atr1

When I need it, I can take my discussions with my husband/wife from the beginning and correct it

2

Atr2

When I argue with my husband/wife, it will eventually work for me to contact him/her

3

Atr3

The time I spent with my husband/wife is special for me

4

Atr4

Rather than being family, we feel more like two strangers who share a space at home

5

Atr5

We do not have time at home as partners

6

Atr6

I enjoy my holidays with my husband/wife

7

Atr7

I enjoy traveling with my husband/wife

8

Atr8

Most of our goals are common

9

Atr9

I think that one day in the future, when I look back, I see that my spouse and I have been in harmony with each other

10

Atr10

When it comes to personal liberty, we both have similar beliefs

11

Atr11

We both have similar entertainment

12

Atr12

Most of our goals for people (children, friends, etc.) are the same

13

Atr13

Our dreams of living with each other are similar and harmonious

14

Atr14

We both are compatible with each other about what love should be

15

Atr15

In terms of living a good life, we both agree with each other

16

Atr16

Our views about the ideal marriage are similar

17

Atr17

We both agree on the roles that should be played in a marriage

18

Atr18

We both have similar values in trust

19

Atr19

I know exactly what my partner likes

20

Atr20

I know how my partner wants to be taken care of when he/she is sick

21

Atr21

I know my partner’s favorite food

22

Atr22

I can tell what kind of stress my partner is facing in his/her life

23

Atr23

I have knowledge of my partner’s inner world

24

Atr24

I know my partner’s basic concerns

25

Atr25

I know what my partner’s current sources of stress are

26

Atr26

I know my partner’s hopes and wishes

27

Atr27

I know my husband/wife very well

28

Atr28

I know my partner’s friends and his/her social relationships

29

Atr29

I feel aggressive when I argue with my husband/wife

30

Atr30

When discussing with my husband/wife, I usually use expressions such as“you always” or “you never”

31

Atr31

I can use negative statements about my partner’s personality during our discussions

32

Atr32

I can use offensive expressions during our discussions

33

Atr33

I can insult my partner during our discussions

34

Atr34

I can be humiliating when we argue

35

Atr35

My argument with my husband/wife is not calm

36

Atr36

I hate my partner’s way of opening a subject

37

Atr37

Our fights often occur suddenly

38

Atr38

I just start a fight with my husband/wife before I know what is going on

39

Atr39

When I talk to my husband/wife about something, my calm suddenly breaks

40

Atr40

When I argue with my husband/wife, I only go out and I do not say a word

41

Atr41

I am mostly stay silent to calm the environment a little bit

42

Atr42

Sometimes I think it is good for me to leave home for a while

43

Atr43

I would rather stay silent than argue with my husband/wife

44

Atr44

Even if I am right in the argument, I stay silent not to upset the other side

45

Atr45

When I argue with my husband/wife, I remain silent because I am afraid of not being able to control my anger

46

Atr46

I feel right in our discussions

47

Atr47

I have nothing to do with what I have been accused of

48

Atr48

I am not actually the one who is guilty about what I am accused of

49

Atr49

I am not the one who is wrong about problems at home

50

Atr50

I would not hesitate to tell my husband/wife about his/her inadequacy

51

Atr51

When I discuss it, I remind my husband/wife of his/her inadequacy

52

Atr52

I am not afraid to tell my husband/wife about his/her incompetence

53

Atr53

When one of us apologizes when our discussions go in a bad direction, the issue does not extend

54

Atr54

Even when things are challenging, I know we can put aside our disagreements